A vibrant and varied sex life is often the default expectation–or at least the unspoken goal. Unfortunately, conditions like low sex drive and erectile dysfunction have made this goal unattainable for some.

If you think sex is awkward or intimidating even with a familiar partner, you’re not alone. Many couples struggle with complications related to sex. 

As a solution, some turn to intimate stores for products like lubricants or to medical professionals for prescription options. Many of these products may have earned good reviews among users, but they often come with unpleasant side effects or even long-term health effects.

We often receive emails asking for our recommendation(s) for safe, natural and effective products to to boost sex drive or relieve the anxiety surrounding sex.

Here, we’ll give you all our best tips for using essential oils in the bedroom, including oils to use for specific concerns. 

History of Aromatherapy for Intimacy

Before we delve into using essential oils in the bedroom and how they can fuel your sexuality and boost your sex life, let's discuss the history behind aromatherapy for sex.

In simple terms, aromatherapy is a class of complementary and alternative medicine where therapeutic benefits differ between oils. 

The potency of these oils and their smell make them critical in aromatherapy. Some historical records reveal that aromatic plants were used thousands of years ago to ignite passion and boost romance.

The Romans, for instance, usually spread rose petals on their marital beds and brides wore orange blossom crowns. This was expected to calm the nerves before their first intimate night as newlyweds! 

Ancient aromatherapists praise essential oils for their natural all-encompassing therapeutic properties, claiming they offer holistic healing to the mind, body, and soul.

Common Issues Surrounding Sex

A less than stellar sex life can be a result of several factors. In most cases, common culprits include:

• Stress
• Performance anxiety
• Fatigue
• Hormonal issues
• Illness
• Overall health
• Sleep issues
• Diet
• Depression
• Age
• Certain Medications
• Trauma

While we don’t claim essential oils are the answer to these problems, they can be used to help relieve some of the symptoms keeping you from enjoying a healthy sex life. 

The alluring odors relax your nerves, stimulate your senses, and build a comforting aura around you. These attributes collectively enhance your sensual desires and sexual performance.

The aromas not only stir up your sexual fantasies, but they can also give you and your significant other a good stamina boost for optimal performance.

Best Essential Oils for Sex

There are quite a few prescription drugs to help with low sex drive or sexual enhancement in men, but until very recently, there was no FDA approved option for women even though 4 in 10 women face similar performance problems. Even now, women still have fewer options than men in this sphere. 

For this reason, exploring natural alternatives is not only beneficial but often necessary to get some level of assistance. 

While many different oils can add some spice to your sex life, here are four of our favorite essential oils for fun in the bedroom:

•  Rose essential oil

Rose is a bit of an extravagant oil that often comes with a hefty price tag. This is because obtaining a significant amount of oil from delicate rose petals can be challenging. It’s well worth the price in the end, however, as rose is very versatile and boasts a ton of therapeutic benefits! 

Rose essential oil has been found to help manage concerns for people who suffer from premenstrual syndrome (PMS) in particular. It can also relieve stress, tension, anxiety and pain - all common libido killers.

Research has also found the oil as a potential aphrodisiac as well.

• Sandalwood essential oil

Sandalwood has long been used for its positive effects on low sex drive.

This essential oil has specific properties thought to help create a calm and relaxed atmosphere, boosting arousal.

Generally speaking, both men and women appreciate sandalwood's aroma and the scent blends well with many other related essential oils.

• Lavender essential oil

Lavender essential oil is widely linked to arousal in men. It has also earned some good reviews for helping to boost the sexuality of older women.

In addition to its well known anxiolytic properties (which can be helpful for those pre-sex nerves), studies show notable improvements in physical and mental sexual experiences for older ladies. 

You can spritz some lavender linen spray on your pillows and beddings to adjust the atmosphere for some added satisfaction. Try our essential-oil-infused linen spray with lavender oil for your bedding.

• Jasmine essential oil

Jasmine essential oil releases an intoxicating aroma, which can be emotionally uplifting and warming. Jasmine is recommended if you wish to inspire confidence before, during, and after sex. The oil is arguably one of the most potent aphrodisiacs couples use to ignite the spark in their love life. 

For a boost in energy to get you going, products like MOXE Energy Essential Oil inhaler can enhance intimacy with finely picked oils including Bergamot, Grapefruit, Spearmint, and Sandalwood essential oils. This citrus and mint combo is invigorating with a touch of sandalwood to get you in the mood. 

How to Use Essential Oils for Love Making

You can use these oils in several ways. Interestingly, some of these methods have been around for millenia dating back to the ancient Egyptians and we still incorporate them today. In a sense, aromatherapy is truly timeless.

In our posts, we've talked a lot about essential oils and their different application methods. 

For sex, these are applicable: 

• Skin Massage

After a long day of work or errands, jumping right into sex can seem overwhelming. You may want to start by building the tension a little with a massage that could progress into a memorable time.

One exciting thing about a body massage is that both the giver and receiver experience therapeutic effects. There's no more sure-fire way to get the ball rolling than an aromatic massage.

• In the Bathtub

Dropping some of your favorite essential oil scents in the bathtub can stimulate your passion and leave you and your partner ready for some alone time.

One of the most notable effects of aromatherapy is mood modulation, and certain aphrodisiac oils mentioned above can take the experience from an ordinary bath to the first step of a memorable night.

You can even use specific scents to intentionally trigger nostalgic memories of activities and places you both can relate to. This makes the connection even stronger, creating the right atmosphere for intimacy.

• Diffusers

If massaging isn’t your forte, consider dispersing essential oils into your space with a diffuser and throw some love in the air.

A diffuser can quickly change the environment and transform your mood for especially engaging and memorable sex. 

We advise you to check out these different options and see which works best. There's no harm in combining two or more of these options for more heightened effects.

Before you order any essential oil, though, let’s discuss some important safety concerns.

Safety Precautions When Using Essential Oils

While we highly recommend trying these oils for relief from symptoms of common health concerns, it’s important to take note of some of the potential side effects. 

The fact is, a lot of essential oils you find in local grocery stores are nothing more than sweet smelling fragrances. It would save you a lot of time and money to know that not all sweet-smelling mixes are aromatherapeutic, or even real essential oils.

Such chemical-laden synthetic products offer little to no benefits. So, you may need to do a bit of  detective work when shopping for an effective essential oil to use in the bedroom. Look for reputable retailers that can offer guarantees.

Remember, essential oils are highly potent and may need some dilution, preferably with a carrier oil like coconut or jojoba.

To avoid improper dilutions, consider using pre-mixed products from trusted brands. MOXĒ sells a range of essential oil blends with different application alternatives including personal diffusers, linen sprays, inhalers, and other personal care products.

Still Not Sure Which Essential Oil To Try?

We’ve given you some options, but in reality there’s no single best essential oil for intimacy, and certain oils work better for some than others, so have some fun experimenting with what works best for you!

In our experience, MOXE’s Love essential oil blend has never disappointed. Packed with Rose, Jasmine, Sandalwood, Bergamot, Lemon, and lime, this blend is a powerhouse of aphrodisiacs.

Top-quality essential oils are inherently pricey. The process of obtaining the oil – from cultivation to extraction – costs a lot in time and resources. That’s why some manufacturers bypass natural extraction processes and settle for lab-made synthetics. Be on the lookout for these subpar versions.

Closing thoughts

Studies show intense aromas can cause erections for man, and certain smells can lead to increased orgasms. Given this, it’s safe to say aromatherapy for sex has some serious promise.

Several essential oils contain highly potent aphrodisiac properties that set the right mood for sex.

Whether your sexual struggles are caused by performance anxiety, stress, depression, pain, diet or fatigue, essential oils can help ease your mind and body enough to make sex less of a hardship and more of an event to look forward to.

For a reliable product, consider natural essential oils from trusted brands and dealers. 

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